Newly wed, New name, New Life

Well it's official, I wore white, we said "I do", and we danced the night away. My wedding was about 3 weeks ago and there are so many things that I would like to share with all of the future brides out there. So I'm just going to dive right in: 1. The one thing I would do differently (and basically the only thing I would do differently) would be to pay the extra money and hire a wedding planner. Honestly, it's worth it. I felt that throughout the day I was constantly having to be drug out of the bride role and put on my "captain pants". You don't want to be the one driving your ship on the day of your wedding, let others be the one who deals with the hiccups on your day, you shouldn't even be made aware of those to be honest. 2. Have some kick butt personal attendants and bridesmaids. These ladies will be the ones who will share one of the most important days of your life with you. Luckily my ladies were awesome and I don't know how I would've gotten through the day without them. They ran errands, help set up, help with make-up and hair, and were a constant support through the whole thing. Make sure these women are women who are important to you and that you are not just picking them to please other people (usually there is guilt involved with that one or traditional pressures, don't give in) it should be your decision, after all it's your wedding. 3. Pay the vendors before the day of. It's true what everyone says, you don't want to have to be worrying about writing checks on the day of your wedding, it just puts more stress on your day, take care of it beforehand. 4. Now this piece of advice isn't for everyone, but for me it was perfect. Wait to see your groom. Now I know, "you will be rushed for pictures", "don't you just want it to be just the two of you" in private?" No. I have absolutely no regrets waiting to see each other and neither does my husband. Honestly we got really awesome pictures of the two of us with a door in between so we couldn't see each other, and that special moment when we saw me walking down the aisle was completely worth it. It was a moment that will completely take your breath away and a memory you will never forget. Plus this is also an amazing picture opportunity, since it is genuine. 5. The wedding should reflect the groom and you. After all it is about the both of you and your lives coming together. Now if you are laid back and simple, don't go crazy with a high class, high maintenance wedding. I feel like when this happens (and trust me it happens a lot) it's because of other people's opinions of what they would do, not what reflects you and your groom. It's not their day, it's yours and your future husband, make sure you stay true to that idea (but don't go bridezilla crazy, nobody likes that). 6. My last and most important piece of advice for all of you future brides would be to remember one thing: at the end of the day it's about you and your special someone getting married and becoming one. That's it. It's that simple. No matter the place settings, flowers, or bridesmaids dresses, the day is about you two. Try not to focus so much on the little details and look at the bigger picture. Now if you are a bride to be I'm sure you've heard to enjoy your day because it will go so quickly, and I'm sorry to say this, but everyone is right...it goes so quickly, like a blink of an eye and the entire event is over. I'm not saying you should ignore everyone there, what I'm going to tell you is to make sure to take time to ENJOY your day. Take a moment or two with just your husband during the day (I changed out of my shoes and spent some time just one-on-one, and it was perfect) Dance, relax, and most of all feel the love that surrounds you on that day, I know I did. Well I think I've said my peace about wedding day madness, and I hope it has given some of you an insight to what to-do and not to-do. At the end of the day, if you are married to the man you love, everything has gone perfectly, remember that. Live each day to it's fullest!

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